An Amazing Final Goodbye
On a muggy day in June, where you could almost grab the
humidity by the handful, Cathy Wood did something she thought would end in
tears: talk about her dad’s passing.
“I was really close to my dad so I’m still struggling with this,”
Cathy said as she got out notes about her experience with Angela Hospice. She
didn’t want to miss a detail.
If she was so nervous, why do the interview?
“I feel like this is the last thing I can do for my dad…to
say how good you guys were to him,” she said.
Cathy, holding the letter her dad received from his We Honor Veterans ceremony. |
About an hour after hanging up with his doctor they received
a call from Angela Hospice. Soon after that someone came to her mom’s house to
explain what hospice was and what it had to offer.
“At first my mom was not really for it because she had a lot
of faith in my dad’s doctor,” said Cathy, who had no prior hospice experience.
“Finally, I said, ‘You know, Ma, we’ve been blessed. He hasn’t been really
sick. The last treatments that he had they told us that he was going to lose
his appetite. That this was going to happen, that was going to happen. None of
those things happened.’
“I said, ‘Let’s do this and see what happens,’” Cathy
continued. “So we did.”
Pete’s house quickly turned into his home care center, where
he would be for about three months before passing in March. Pete’s nurse,
Bonnie, who Cathy spoke volumes about, would come out to the house once a week,
as did an aide that came out twice a week. No matter when they came though,
Cathy’s family knew someone was always just a phone call away, like when her
mom discovered a “cancer outburst” on Pete’s back. She quickly called Angela
Hospice and Bonnie showed up right away. Cathy’s mom also had a really hard
time filling the syringes so Bonnie would help her.
“She prepared us for everything,” Cathy said about Bonnie,
even when Pete was going to die.
After seeing a decline in his health Bonnie told Cathy that
it looked like he had about three weeks left. This came as a shock to Cathy and
her family because he still seemed fine. He was eating, he still knew
everybody, and he was still walking and playing on the floor with his
grandkids.
But Bonnie was right. Pete died right around the time she
had told Cathy he would.
“My mom said the night before he died he was talking to every
one of his kids and grandkids and singing,” she said. “There were no signs that
he was on his way out.”
Some photos from Pete's We Honor Veterans Ceremony. |
“We all got to say our final goodbyes,” Cathy said. “It was
just amazing.”
Another amazing experience for Cathy and her family was
during Pete’s We Honor Veterans ceremony, which almost didn’t happen.
The day that his ceremony was originally scheduled for Pete
wasn’t feeling well so Cathy called Angela Hospice volunteer John Stern – who
spearheaded the program at Angela Hospice with his wife, Lucy – to reschedule.
John told her many people say they’re going to call back but they either don’t
or it’s too late when they finally do. Luckily, Cathy did call back in time and
they were able to perform the ceremony for Pete’s family, including his sister
and her husband – who retired from the military – and Cathy was so glad they
did. They also had a veteran’s service for him at his funeral.
“It was awesome,” she said. “I think any veteran deserves to
be recognized.”
Another person who deserves to be recognized: her mom, who
took care of Pete along with help from Cathy and her sisters. Her mom’s
determination to take care of Pete as long as she could also played a part in
why they chose to use home care instead of using some form of assisted living.
“At 80 years old, trying to care for somebody like that
could be challenging,” Cathy said. “In fact, I tell her all the time that she
did an immaculate job.”
It seems like they all did, including Cathy, who didn’t need
those notes after all.
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